The Blog
Dive into intimate, inspiring (and slightly taboo) stories
My blog is where I share from my heart. I write about motherhood, money, intimacy, becoming sovereign, and so much more. You can also find my recipes here.
Go ahead and explore the library below, or use the search bar to explore a specific topic.
Balancing Feminine Flow with Grit: The Path to Success for Women
In recent years, there's been a significant shift towards women finding success through embracing their feminine flow, as opposed to the hustle culture and push energy that many of us were raised to believe in. While this approach aligns more closely with the innate nature of many women, it's clear that an element of grit—resilience and determination in the face of adversity—is still necessary for achieving success. So, why do some women naturally possess this grit while others struggle to find it? And importantly, how can we cultivate it if it doesn't come naturally?
The Diet Industry: A Generational Burden on Women that is Ready to Fall
The intricate web that the diet industry has woven around women, tightening its grip with every passing generation, has long been a topic that I have been very aware of, and a cycle that I am very passionate about breaking for my children. The pressure to be thin, to fit into an ever-shrinking mould of beauty, has not only distorted our relationship with our own bodies but has also seeped into our relationships with each other, creating a legacy of competition, shame, and disconnection. Yet, in recent years, there has been a powerful movement towards reclaiming our true selves and fostering genuine connections among women.
Sexual Desire in Our 40s - and Beyond
I don’t know about you but when I was in my 20s, I couldn’t imagine that my sex drive would be as high, if not higher, and I certainly assumed that there was absolute truth in the idea that after 16 years of being with someone, you couldn’t expect that initial sexual spark to remain. However, I have been proven wrong on both counts, and through conversations with other women, I have realised that in large part, sadly I am in a minority. I have become very passionate about talking about sex, intimacy and relationships over the last few years, and I am expanding more and more into this work.
Embracing the Shadows: Finding My Voice in the Silence
June has arrived bringing with it a fresh wave of introspection and growth (not always easy but the way I like it!). A number of people have recommended Carolyn Elliott’s book ‘Existential Kink’ to me, and this week I started to listen to it. Of course, as with all things, I felt called to finally listen to it at what seems like the perfect time. Through occurrences this week, but also coming in as a message slowly over the last five years or so, I've come to a profound realisation. I had of course heard of ‘shadow work’ but it wasn’t until listening to Carolyn speaking deeper on the topic that I have really understood it.
Sacred Waters: A Journey into Water Consciousness
Consider for a moment the difference between water sourced from a natural spring and the water that flows from our taps. Spring water emerges from the earth in a state of purity, imbued with vital energy and mineral content. It's alive, vibrant, and in harmony with its surroundings - it is created slowly. In contrast, tap water often lacks this vitality, having been stripped of its natural properties through filtration processes and chemical additives.
Does your bank account act as a mirror for your subconscious beliefs?
Maybe you have never thought of it before, but it is interesting perhaps for you to ponder: is you bank account, not so much a measure of how hard you work but instead a mirror that reflects back to you your innermost beliefs, thoughts, and emotions about money? In most part, I would imagine if you really let yourself go deep into your conditioning, you would agree. This is because beneath the surface of all of us lies a complex network of subconscious patterns dictating our financial reality. Indeed, our relationship with money is deeply rooted in our subconscious, often influencing our financial decisions without us even realising it.
The Feminine and Money: Breaking through the stories we hold
Throughout history, women have encountered numerous obstacles that have impeded their financial autonomy and hindered their ability to ‘play’ in the field of money and abundance. However, it's equally important for me to note upfront that embracing feminine energy in money doesn't necessarily mean emulating traditional masculine paths to financial success.
Let’s explore this a little here:
Embracing the Circle of Life: My Journey Back to Eating Meat
In a world where dietary choices often spark heated debates and polarised opinions, sharing this with you has been considered and difficult to come to, as my decision to no longer be vegan was in fact itself. However, my journey back to eating meat has been one of personal revelation and connection to what to me feels very true to say as the natural order of life. From vegetarianism to veganism and back again, my dietary path has been a winding road shaped by compassion, prioritising the health of me and my family, and a deepening understanding of our relationship with the environment and Mother Nature.
Fasting with your Cycle
The reason I am doing it is multi-faceted. Since I had Savannah eight years ago, despite my diet being excellent, my body has felt out of balance. I have changed various things, but nothing has really worked. So the main pull for me was healing the imbalance in my body. Our body’s main priority when we have food in us is digestion. When we fast then we allow our bodies to focus instead on healing.
Plant based Gluten Free Lasagna
I came up with this recipe about two years ago, but when I say I came up with the 'recipe', I mean I winged it, it worked, and then I have winged it a few more times since, but could never have told anyone how I did it. So for my Autumn Cleanse in 2021, in order to share it with those who took part, I wrote it down as I did it.
It is delicious - at least according to anyone I have every made it for.I hope you think so too.
The Thread of Intimacy
Every time I come back I cling to that thread of intimacy that has woven around us in that time. I so look forward to being at home with the family again, but I dread the fact that when I enter that door, the thread will be severed as the day to day takes over.
Red Lentil + Mushroom Bake
This is actually based off a recipe my mom found (via a friend from a magazine) and she makes for us often when she comes to stay. We mixed it up together a little bit, because we both don’t ever really stick to a recipe, and here is what we ended up with. I absolutely love it. So wholesome + filling. I hope you enjoy it too.
Liberation through nudity
Yup! On Friday I was booked in with all my freedom loving friends (those of us who have carried on living life together over the last two years, allowing our children to play with their friends, and collectively continuing to know the beauty of a hug!), to go to Harrogate Turkish Baths. It was already a pretty big deal for me, because to wear a swimming costume in front of other people for an extended period of time (not just putting it on and quickly jumping into a pool before someone saw me), has always felt overwhelming. I suffered with an eating disorder in my teens and twenties, and the hang up it has left me with around my body still remains.
The gift of time
Last November I turned 40, and I received so many wonderful gifts! I feel so truly honoured to have such incredible friends + family in my life. One of my closest friends from when I first had Caleb, one of the kindest women I will ever meet, Anna, wrote to me + said to me that her gift to me was time. She is a beautiful artist + she offered me the opportunity to spend time with her in her studio for the day. I was so excited + yesterday was the day. I want to share with you my experience.
The Mothership - an evolution
When I first created The Mothership, some of you may remember that I had a great deal come up for me emotionally, as I was presenting her to the world. She came to me to bring her into the world, but it wasn't until I was in the process of doing so, that I realised that she was me, and by sharing her, by asking other women to join her world, I was laying myself out to full scrutiny + rejection.
Chocolate Jaffa Jelly Ears
For those who don't know, Jelly Ears, also known as Wood Ears, are mushrooms. If you look below you will see what they look like in the wild. They are easy to identify, and a safe starter mushroom to forage if you follow some simple instructions. I have linked a video up below to help you learn about them, as well as a couple starter books to begin foraging for mushrooms.
Is now the right time to get busy again?
Every year from Christmas to early January, I have little to do with my phone, and certainly nothing to do with work. Over the few days of Christmas itself, I have nothing to do with my phone at all. It feels so incongruent to me to be near it. In fact generally I dislike my phone. I like nothing more than to leave it behind when I go out (once to my misfortune as I got a flat tire, but I made it through with the help of a friendly passer by!). The more I connect to nature through my garden and through foraging, the more of a distaste I have for distraction through being online. That deals with my phone though, what about work?
Guide or By-stander?
I was replying to a message Gus left me, and the realisation came to me that we have moved from the paradigm of ‘controlling’ our children (not good!), to being scared by-standers in their lives! We fear being the overbearing parents of the generations before, which many of us rightly have trauma associated with, on top of societal pressure to pander to our children's every whim. We have therefore moved from one extreme to another, and it has led us to being a by-stander in our child's journey through developing their beliefs and values.
Evolution
Since motherhood I have been presented with many seasons of deep reflection + contemplation. Each time I have been thrown into uncertainty + inadequacy, but I have always welcomed these moments with curiosity + intrigue. I have always had a sense that good was coming as a result of them, and indeed each time these seasons have completed, I have come out as a truer + more authentic version of myself.
Hope
This last week + a half has felt heavy at times, which I think has been experienced by many people recently. With the announcements from Austria + Germany about mandatory j@bs, and seeing the horror happening in Australia, as well as ‘Moronic’ now coming into play, it has been hard at times to stay positive.