The moments in-between ✨

True intimacy is built in the moments in-between.

I noticed a few years ago that when I have sex I fall very naturally into my feminine essence. On reflection I realised that Josh equally very naturally falls into his masculine. I really want to be led, and he very naturally wants to lead. And yet previously, when we would enter back into our every day lives, the roles would quickly reverse. Josh would often say to me: “How can we go from that, to this? How can you change so quickly?”.

The answer I realised was that I wasn’t doing the work of surrender, and building true emotional intimacy in-between.

Intimacy is built in every moment of our shared lives together with our partner, not just in the bedroom. In fact without true connection in the ‘in-between’ moments, the times of physical intimacy, whilst they might seem ‘more natural’ (as they did to me), are actually just a form of escape. Escape from the exhaustion most women feel, and escape from being controlled all the time, in the case of most men. Therefore we are not in a state of true connection, where we are able to share our wants and desires from an open heart, and in turn experience unlimited connection and pleasure.

And when we can do this, when we can come together physically in this way, we create strong roots for us to move forward again in day to day life with the desire to come closer together emotionally, and in our life vision.

The two worlds of physical intimacy, and day to day emotional intimacy, feed one another.

‘The moments in-between’ are in fact every moment when you are working on true intimacy with your partner - physically, emotionally, spiritually - together.

I go into this more in this 15 minute episode. I’d love to hear your reflections either via email here or via DM into Instagram here.

This is our work in Surrender to Intimacy. We start on 5th September. I cannot wait to journey with you 🌙 You can find the details of Surrender to Intimacy here.